Saturday, December 20, 2008

Courtesy Pays

Are you getting tired of my stickers, tarpaulins? And now posters! hehehe! So are you?

Sorry if you are but I'm not and will never get tired of searching for GOD's revelations and sharing them to everyone.

Well, I was supposed to post this last Thursday but I was too tired from work and shopping. I was going to post this last night but I was too tired from picking up my sister. I had to travel for 2.5 hours in the very late evening.

Thursday story...I was at the mall...I was looking for any revelations, as usual. I went to the public comfort room and as I was about to pee, there in front of me...


Let's define Courtesy.

Courtesy - respectful or considerate act; polite behavior; Willingness or generosity in providing; "chivalrous" conduct of all kinds from courtly politeness to compassion and nobility of mind

chilvalrous - being attentive; honourable; gallant

As we all know, if we give courtesy, courtesy will be returned to us.

One of the most challenging ministries in a congregation is the youth ministry and so are the so called youth leaders.

Respect - One of the few things given less importance nowadays is this. Respect is received when given. Wise people think before they speak and act. Leaders should not provoke ugly emotions from others. They should rebuke gently and lovingly, not in an offensive and rude kind of way. Practice what you preach, as what Cody and I believe. If youths are being evaluated, leaders are evaluated more strictly. So for the youth leaders out there, be a blessing to everyone, not a stumbling block. Be a friend, not an enemy. How can I ever say these things? I'm a youth leader. I have experiences with other youth leaders, too. Observations. Be real. Don't be fake. hahaha!

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12
Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.

Titus 2:2
Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.

1 Peter 2:17
Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.

Considerate act - Before you say/do something, think first. Analyze. Think how it will affect others. Do not just say it because you want to or because you think it's a good rebuke. Be considerate. Consider other people's feelings. Consider how it will recur to them. Some words recur to others over and over and it hurts them in an awful way, not in a good way. Remember to think before you speak/act. Consider your thoughts. Not because you think it's good, you must say it. GOD's Word shall take you in the right direction. Say it just like how JESUS would say it. Think just like how JESUS would think. How would you do that? Have an intimate relationship with GOD.

Titus 3:2
to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.

James 3:17
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

Polite behavior - You do not say rude things just because you want to. You do not rebuke just because you want to. Discernment is getting in line with GOD's judgment. Every time I feel like rebuking, I always think first how it will affect the other person or if it will please GOD. Even if you're very driven to correct someone, do it in a polite way, not in an offensive way. In order to know how to do it, let JESUS be your example. Use Scriptures or experiences. I always use, "It is written..." and "I read from a book...(use a book that's in line with GOD's Word)" and also, "Based from my experience..." and do not say, "You are wrong because..." or "You're not a blessing because..."

Job 34:4
Let us discern for ourselves what is right; let us learn together what is good.

Proverbs 10:13
Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning,
but a rod is for the back of him who lacks judgment.

Proverbs 16:21
The wise in heart are called discerning,
and pleasant words promote instruction.

Philippians 1:9-11
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.

Willingness or generosity in providing - My mom once advised me to say "That's not good" instead of saying "That's bad" because the child will think he/she is bad if you do use that. And for example you say "That's not good", you must also provide good supplications such as, "This is much better..." or "This is written in the Bible so..."

Just like in the public comfort rooms, we see things such as "Please flush the toilet after using." "Please do not flush toilet papers."

We must never give up right away even if we're upset or disappointed. We must learn to do good all the time and be a role model for the youths. Even if others hurt us, we must learn to forgive and teach what's right. Never provoke ugly emotions.

1 Corinthians 2:13-16
13This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, expressing spiritual truths in spiritual words.[a] 14The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15The spiritual man makes judgments about all things, but he himself is not subject to any man's judgment:
16"For who has known the mind of the Lord
that he may instruct him?"[b] But we have the mind of Christ.

Deutoronomy 2:5
Do not provoke them to war, for I will not give you any of their land, not even enough to put your foot on...

Colossians 3:23
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,

"chivalrous" (being attentive; honourable; gallant) conduct of all kinds from courtly politeness to compassion and nobility of mind - When you give out rebukes, be sure that it glorifies the FATHER. When you give out rebukes, be sure to give supplications that will help them be a better person. Be sure to show them that you still love them inspite of the unpleasant things they did. Compassion is a must in GOD's ministry. First, the heart for GOD then the heart for people. Not just weeping for people but also doing something to the extent of GOD's ability through your life. Nobility of the mind is essential. Our minds must always stay pure. Free from thoughts that are not from GOD. We control our minds and thoughts, not them controlling us. We must always look after the good of others, not only for the good of ourselves.

2 Corinthians 10:5
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Ephesians 4:32
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Proverbs 15:26
The LORD detests the thoughts of the wicked,
but those of the pure are pleasing to him.

Hebrews 3:1
Therefore, holy brothers, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, the apostle and high priest whom we confess.

My intention is never to offend but to share GOD's insights and revelations. My intention is to rebuke in tune to GOD's Word.


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