Tuesday, January 27, 2009

For Christian Singles = not married


Marriage is a good thing. Actually, it is a beautiful thing.

I am not married yet but I never stopped believing this.

The most beautiful thing in this world is LOVE (next to GOD). Okay that's a given.

I have heard people say that 25 is the right age to get married. Some say it's 30. I don't believe in a target age for marriage. No one is old enough to marry. But of course, being young is an exemption. I would never convince teenagers to marry at the age of thirteen. hehehe!

Getting married is not a competition. I have heard people older than me tell me that they should get married first because they are older. I refuse to agree. I'm sorry. hehehe!

Jergens told me about her friend who is getting married now after waiting for a long time. She is 36 years old. She is getting married this year with her bestfriend who is 29 years old. They're both Christians devoted in GOD's ministry.

My aunt got married at the age of 46. Now tell me, is there anything too hard for GOD?

There is no right age for marriage. We don't do the target. GOD does. If you are willing to wait, GOD will give abundantly. If you never lose hope, GOD will answer your prayers. If you trust in GOD, HE will give you the desires of your heart. And if you put HIM first, HE will be faithful! ALWAYS and FOREVER!

Steps to Marriage:

1.) Love GOD.
2.) Love yourself.
3.) Love your partner.

GOD should always be first. Once you have surrendered everything, it is then you will feel complete. If you're not having spiritual breakthrough, think about it. If you're not desiring a deeper intimacy with GOD, think about it. Learn to examine your heart, mind and spirit. Humble yourself. GOD will help you.

By loving yourself is by fully forgiving yourself and others, being able to enjoy solitude, thinking positively of yourself and others, by being real to everything and by being honest to yourself. Self-integrity. If you haven't practiced integrity yet, don't get married yet. hehehe! Learn to love yourself unconditionally. It is when you have learned to respect yourself that you respect others, too. Thinking that you will still make mistakes but GOD's grace will be sufficient.

If GOD is first and you have learned to love yourself, everything else will follow. Your love for your partner should be selfless. Your partner will be like your disciple. Having a disciple is exposing yourself to hurts but growth in character. So be ready for that. Love your partner like how you love yourself. Or even more.

No marriage is perfect. BUT every marriage is beautiful.

There will always be differences. I have read a lot of books and articles about marriage and they always state their differences as a couple. I believe GOD created us uniquely. And GOD created our partners to help us grow in character, to fill in the spaces and to complement each other.

Before getting married, prepare yourself. Read a lot of books about marriage of Christian couples. Read articles. After reading, read some more. hehehe! You will never know anything unless you go through it so experience will be one of your teachers. As all appliances and gadgets, they have manuals, books are our manuals. Preparation. There is no harm in preparing for the future. Oh and get wise counsels from married couples. Never stop getting those. LOVE. Then LOVE some more. Never stop loving. Never stop believing. Pray a lot all the time. Read GOD's Word daily. Meditate. Study. Serve wholeheartedly. Cook. hehehe! Practice being a wife before you start being a wife. Why? So you won't get tired and sick of being a wife and mother. LOVE GOD ABOVE ALL!

MARRIAGE IS NOT A JOKE SO PLEASE THINK FIRST. THINK A LOT.

If you are married, please share some ideas for the singles out there.

Make an impact. Make a difference. Make a ripple. Tip the scale.

ALL THE GLORY BELONGS TO GOD ALONE!!!

P.U.S.H.

GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY! THINK WISELY! DECIDE WITH GOD'S INTEREST AT HEART! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH YOU - NO IF'S, NO AND'S, NO BUT'S!

When you feel GOD's love, OVERFLOW!

2 comments:

Christine Pembleton said...

This is a wonderful post. I agree that God has to be first, because if you want to meet someone that loves God the way you do, you have follow God's leading. Our relationship with God is essential, and there are other things that Christian women can do to get ready to be a wife too! I am currently married, and have a blog dedicated to dating, relationship and engagement tips for Christian Women at ReadyToBeAWife.com. You're free to visit anytime,and read some of the posts. God Bless You

Saii said...

you're so right

great advice

:)